How to Overcome Loneliness and Depression and Achieve Success

Most of people who know me have experienced my abnormally good attitude first hand. Today was little different on this Christmas Eve eve (insert sad face). However, I was driving a saw a building with the lights on and a bunch of cars. Curious, I went inside and immediately a gentleman offered me his seat. Turns out it was an AA meeting, and I entered right at its conclusion where we all joined hands, said the Lord’s Prayer, and socialized afterward. I will tell you this: always default to
1) Awareness and 2) Vulnerability when you fall short of your best self. When everything else seems stripped from you, know exactly where you are. You ever wondered why air flight attendants stress the location of the air masks or why movie theatre staff point to the exits of the building? You KNOW damn well people aren’t going to be logical and remember those things in case of, say, a shooting or a fire. With an awareness of exits and emergency procedures, however, they’ll at least panic “correctly” so to speak. Much like a disturbed crowd, when you’re upset, frustrated, or depressed, have awareness of where you are first. Opening up and being vulnerable will then allow you to see and move towards your exit. Listening to people who have problems bigger than my own really put things in perspective, and I really wanted to share this. Happy Holidays Everyone! 🙂

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A Man’s Purpose pt 1

What does it mean to be a man?  Go through the list and consider what options our culture has given us. A driver’s license, high school commencement, voting rights, employment, drinking rights, or possible marriage barely provide any meaningful elevation from boyhood. Modern American males possess few ceremonial means of formally marking their passage into their purpose as a man. The bar has been set too low and today you can find plenty of man children who can shave that have yet to make the transition.

Regardless of your belief, whether you are a secular atheist or a Buddhist, the economic and sociological benefits of Biblical values are infallibly sound. When men fulfill the purpose and design of men as the Bible has outlined it, humanity thrives, and when men reject the space that men are designed to fill, the world burns. Why do I say this? Take a dive into the the very first book, Genesis, chapter 2 and verse 15, “The Lord God took the man and put him into the garden of Eden to work it and keep it.” Here, we can see even early on, even in paradise before sin, God gave man the duty to harvest and to work. This is why lazy men are so damaging to humanity. We are designed to work. The perfect man is the working man.

Our secular society today could learn a great deal from other ancient traditions as well. To understand where to start, we must look towards rites of passage. Even as little tads, children of the ancient days were expected to prepare themselves for their initiation. An African proverb sums it up best, “it takes a village to raise a child”: this is an entire social force focused on every individual; the essence of a community.

The basic formula of a rite of passage is explained by an anthropologist named Arnold van Gennep. This formula breaks the passage up into three stages: an end (severance from childhood), and middle (threshold), and a beginning (incorporation into manhood). Unlike anything else, notice how a rite of passage begins with an ending and ends with a beginning. An excellent example most people are familiar with is the process of becoming a member of the armed forces. The recruit gets cut off from society and their previous civilian life, they’re trained and challenged in boot camp, and then they graduate as a lean, mean, freedom-defending machine.

 

 

A letter to Sarah Joy

“By taking someone who is undeserving through your emotional obstacle course, you risk losing not just a good person and potential life partner, but yourself.”- Shantell Jamison

Yesterday was beautifully disappointing. I’ve met this girl and am growing strong feelings for her. Yet I seemed to be in the friendzone. I don’t believe the friendzone is somewhere you go without having the blame. However; I don’t exactly know what I’m doing wrong, and I feel as if I still have a chance at her heart. So I wrote this letter:

 

Dear Sarah Joy,

A love letter may seem a little intense after just three weeks, but I hate having important feelings unspoken. With as many deep convos as we’ve had, I’m sure you can handle it 🙂    I know what’s real when I see it, and I want to consume every part of your being, to laugh nonstop, to be lost in your eyes when you’re talking. At the same time, I want to never talk to you again because I don’t want to pay for anyone else’s wrongdoings or past pain when I know the happiness we have is real and new. i know that sounds harsh, yet I’m willing to risk the superficial sugarcoating in order to tear down your walls and find what’s on the other side.

 

Sincerely yours,

Carnell Tate